Premarital resource for pastors

As pastors and marriage counselors, you know that one of your vital roles is premarital counseling. Our workbook is an invaluable premarital resource for your premarital counseling ministry as you seek to effectively help couples prepare for marriage. Building Your marriage Upon the Rock is the most comprehensive premarital workbook available.

What Building Your Marriage Upon the Rock Does for Pastors

  • Solidly Biblical

Building Your Marriage Upon the Rock is based solidly on the Bible. It is loaded with Scriptures references and adheres to the common tenets of the Christian faith. Pastors from every doctrinal position and denomination can use it with confidence. Our book presents marriage in the light of the Kingdom of God. It guides couples to evaluate realistically their own, and their prospective mate’s, relationship to God, their, and their mate’s, character, motives, and maturity and their readiness for a Godly, lifelong marriage.

  • Systematic Approach

Our book helps pastors and marriage counselors cover all the bases of premarital counseling, not only with its systematic and comprehensive content, but also with a clean, easy-to-use layout. Because of this, pastors, marriage counselors, and premarital mentors have found it actually saves them precious time counseling premarital couples while still addressing critical and sensitive areas and issues that other books do not address.

  • Prompts Frank Discussion

Building Your Marriage Upon the Rock eliminates vague and sentimental answers. The questions and other content are designed to elicit thought-provoking, vital discussion on almost every topic imaginable—issues that engaged couples need to address in order to prepare for marriage and to start marriage on a sure, biblical foundation. Pastors, marriage counselors, and marriage mentors can easily observe the dynamics of a couple’s relationship by hearing their answers and the cross-talk couples engage in during premarital counseling.

  • Effective Resource for Marriage Counseling

Pastors have found it to be a very effective resource for marriage counseling. Some churches use it in their marriage ministry in group settings with married couples. In a sense, it is a discipleship course set within the framework of marriage.

Chapters and Sub Headings

Your Relationship to God

  • Performance
  • Legalism or grace
  • Discipleship survey
  • Spiritual beliefs survey
  • The Holy Spirit
  • Daily life survey


  • What is covenant?
  • Blood covenant
  • Marriage covenant
  • Equally yoked
  • Life …happens
  • Your view of marriage

Becoming One

  • Becoming one flesh
  • Bonding
  • Compatibility
  • Boundaries
  • A sports prenuptial
  • Workaholism
  • Skeletons in the closet

Your Relationship

  • Getting to know you
  • Childhood and family life
  • Character and personality
  • Will thou be made whole?

Extended Relationships

  • Your family & future in-laws
  • Family and in-law checklist
  • Previous relationships
  • Stepfamilies
  • Stepfamily belief survey
  • Divorce and remarriage

Roles and Expectations

  • Relationship expectations
  • Unspoken rules and roles
  • Submission
  • Husband’s role
  • Wife’s role
  • Lifestyle expectations
  • Family planning


  • Communication inventory
  • Love language
  • Resolving conflicts
  • Conflict resolution inventory
  • Issues checklist


  • God’s brand of love
  • Survey of 1 Cor 13


  • Financial inventory
  • Budgets, goals, planning


  • Your views about sex
  • Sex survey
  • Your honeymoon
  • Sexual problems


  • Myths about cohabitation

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